Let’s face it, it is not always easy to find an ideal partner, whether for a momentary friendship or for a lifetime relationship? The simple reason is that God did not create perfect human beings, but individuals, who are still work in progress. This understanding helps both partners to factor in and expect imperfections from their partners, which eventually help their affairs to blossom.
Below, we have unveiled basic habits in people that could ruin any relationship. Take time to go through them and do the needful where necessary:
A. Denial of affection
It is almost impossible to imagine a warm relationship without deep affection or fondness. Neither could talk about an ideal relationship when there is no love there. Ironically, a lot of relationship are bereft of affection in the true sense of that expression. With affection it is difficult for any party to remain aloof when his/her partner is in pains, agony or just ordinary want.
For some people, affection may be synonymous with sex, care, self of mutual trust and the like.
It is implied therefore that any relationship that must thrive should have fond attachment, devotion, or love in it.
Some people say it as emotional realm of love, which prioritises the second party’s needs.
B. Not Communicating
It is appalling sometimes the low level of communication that exists between individuals who say they are in a relationship. This is not about making a case for one to be a charter box, but the reality is that there are several things that need to be communicated about. Values and expectations may differ; work place expectations may become more demanding the same way family members may become opposed to certain or general aspects of the relationship. All of these will have a way of affecting a partners commitment to the relationship.
There should always be room to discuss these issues as not to leave room for suspicions;
In fact, the burden of emergent challenging issues is such that can alter, not just facial dispositions, but general attitude to parties in the relationship.
c. Finding faults with the partner.
It bears repetition that just like you are not an angel, the fellow you are in a relationship with is also imperfect specie of a human being. Make accommodation for shortcomings, otherwise you may find yourself eternally disappointed. Realizing ahead of time that your partner is not perfect would keep from always finding fault even over irrelevant issues and things.
D. Taking Your Quarrels And Misunderstandings Outside
One of the greatest disservices that you could do to your relationship is letting in others to your misunderstandings and quarrels. Ironically, most couples who do unnecessarily seek sympathizers not knowing that they are rather increasing the rank of rumour mongers and their affection killers.
e. Not forgiving each other
The realization that parties to a relationship are humans capable of mistakes at any point in time, presupposes that accommodation be made for errors and slips. Couples who have not learnt to forgive each other prepare the grounds for stress in their relationships if not a breakup. The best mindset is one that makes accommodation for wrongs ahead of time.
Trust is like oil that lubricates relationship but once infidelity sets in, that lubrication is totally destroyed, and with it the relationship. But this can be avoided. Partway is to find out what it is your partner desires and making effort to provide it. It is terrible to take your partner for granted, in the sense of not putting into consideration those things that give him/her the kick in the relationship. The other way round, is to find out what it is in other people that attracts your partner and making effort to provide it. Things to avoid in order to kill infidelity include bad dressing, bad manners, poor communication, non-appreciation etc.
It is a reality that some people are usually difficult to satisfy. No matter what they have, they tend to need or want more. The simple way to describe it, is greed and it is a killer of relationships. If you want your affair to last, you must learn to be content with what you have.
Look at it this way, greed is not just about the love for money and more money. It means also desiring that which you already know that your partner lacks. In other words, you have to be ready to remain contended with what your partner has. Nobody can have it all. Some men who are well built may not be buoyant with cash or vice versa.
It is a question of deliberately making up your mind to be content with whatever it is your partner has or can afford.