The human person is a complex personality, most times, difficult to understand, and by extension challenging to predict. This complexity manifests itself in the average relationship, and where not adequately handled had resulted in tumbling relationships: IDERA ELUWANDE reports:
-PROPOSING TO HER DOESN’T MEAN SHE CANNOT LEAVE.
Guys get it wrong in this aspect. A guy assumes that proposing to a lady automatically means she’s his forever. Guys wake up!!! It is just an engagement ring, she is not your wife yet. She still bears her father’s name and not yours, so she can break off the engagement at anytime. Some guys can be delusional, when they give their reasons for proposing. One out of so many reasons for proposing is “to get other toasters or aspiring boyfriends off their their women’s backs” .If a guy can woo a married woman, what makes a single lady any different?
-COOKING ALL THE “ORISIRISI” AND “ASSORTED” DOESN’T MAKE HIM THINK YOU ARE A WIFE MATERIAL.
Some girls can go to any length to please their man. A lady will go to the market,get foodstuffs, cook for him and even cook for his friends.When there is a family function, the lady would still work and work just to please her man. But the shocker is you would be surprised that the lady the guy loves and wants to marry cannot even cook… These ladies that turned themselves to “chefs” don’t even cook in their own homes.
Note: a guy loves who he loves, be yourself,
don’t be who you’re not to please a man……
Not saying cooking isn’t good, as they say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
-GIVING HIM ALL THE SEX STYLE/POSITION IN THE WORLD DOESN’T MEAN HE WON’T GO RUNNING TO ANOTHER LADY.
Ladies, to say the truth it is good to satisfy your man sexually and vice versa. You can give him all the sex styles;doggy, 69,missionary etc but do not go extra mile to please a man that isn’t your husband yet if it’s against your morals. Some ladies hate the thought of ‘oral sex” and “anal sex” yet they allow it, all in the name of pleasing their man. It is so despicable!. Even if you take your man to cloud 9 sexually, a man that is not contented will never be satisfied. He will still wanna try out another lady. You hear them say “they can’t have the same food everyday, they have to eat varieties”. Which means they have to taste other girls asides their girlfriends…That’s how silly some guys are.
Ladies don’t overdo.
-PROVIDING ALL HER NEEDS DOESN’T MEAN SHE WILL NOT CHEAT.
Some ladies are just born cheaters. No matter how a guy pleases his girl, she will still cheat no matter what. These kind of girls are never contented. They are the ones that have good men, yet they are still envious of other people’s relationships. They give flimsy excuses to make their act honourable. They blame it on lack of attention from the man or inability to perform well in bed. It baffles me, when the guys these ladies cheat with are not even up to their men’s standard.
Advice for guys; cut your coat according to your clothe “, do not go to the extreme to please a woman. A good woman will appreciate the little you do for her.
-HAVING ACCESS TO HIS PHONE 24/7 DOESN’T MEAN HE’S FAITHFUL.
Ladies are smart,no doubt but guys are smarter and cunning, let’s face the truth. A smart guy would never ever be caught in the act. They would make sure you don’t find anything incriminating. So even if you go through your man’s phone, it doesn’t guarantee his faithfulness. Most guys only make you see what they want you to see and tell you what they want you to hear. A guy once told me that “girls love to be lied to”. Ladies, you really don’t have to be snooping about your guys phone. TRUST is the key factor that keeps a relationship going.
-TELLING YOU ABOUT HER “TOASTERS ” DOESN’T MEAN SHE’S FAITHFUL.
Girls sha!! and their tactics. They tell their man every toasters that have come their ways, just to make their man believe they are faithful. The truth is that they always leave out the juicy details “like the part they exchanged numbers with the so called toasters”. Girls love attention no doubt, but some do not know where to draw the line or how to say NO. Guys if your woman tells you about her numerous toasters, do a background check to be sure she isn’t seeing one of them already. If a girl is faithful, deep down she knows she is, she doesn’t have to tell her man about her toasters to prove she’s faithful.. It doesn’t mean that there are no faithful girls out there.
-HIS FRIENDS CALLING YOU “OUR WIFE” ARE JUST DECEIVING YOU.
Our Wife! Our Wife!, ladies all na wash o, please your man hasn’t taken you to the altar, so don’t be deceived. The same way the friends are calling you”Our Wife”, is the same way they are calling one, two or even three other girls. So don’t feel too special yet, they would always have their friend’s back.. Please when they call you ” Our Wife “, your reply should be ” Please till he puts a ring on my finger and my last name changes to his before you guys are allowed to call me that, until then, call me by much first name”simple.
-THINGS CANNOT BE ROSY ALL THE TIME.
In a relationship, there are the good and bad times.. A good relationship is one that can cross the hurdles and can scale through any problem that arises in the relationship. Your partner can annoy you and vice versa, you both can make mistakes. Some situations will arise that will shake the relationship, but you must strive hard to “WEATHER THE STORM”. You should think of the good times and what brought you two together in the first place. The bad times are just meant to build us to be better persons and make the bond stronger.. The truth is things cannot be rosy always but a good and lasting relationship is the one that has actually stood the test of time. Let’s cherish what we have.